I’ve used the same desk at work for three years because it’s near the wall and allows me to use a supportive chair approved by my doctor due to chronic back pain. Everyone on the team knew about my condition, and it had never been an issue. That changed when a new coworker, Jake, joined and started sitting there every morning before I arrived. I politely explained my situation and asked if he could choose another spot. He shrugged and said, “First come, first served.”
After the third time, I felt stressed and uncomfortable, both physically and emotionally. One morning, already in pain, I raised my voice when I saw him in my chair again. Jake immediately went to HR, saying I was being aggressive. A few hours later, my manager called me into her office. My heart sank, thinking I was in trouble. She began gently: “I didn’t know how to tell you this, but HR also received your medical paperwork from when the ergonomic setup was approved.”
She reassured me that my desk was officially designated for medical accommodation, and confirmed I had every right to use it. Jake was informed and reminded about respecting workplace accommodations. Instead of punishing me, my manager thanked me for handling it as best as I could under stress. She even arranged for a small sign on the desk reading, “Reserved for ergonomic use – HR approved.”
Later that day, Jake approached me, quieter than before. He said he didn’t know about my back condition and admitted he acted without understanding. I accepted his apology, and we moved on. That experience reminded me that sometimes people don’t see the struggles we carry silently. Clear communication, patience, and the right support can turn conflict into understanding—and even respect.